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Rachel Firasek | #EpicFail, My Valentine
February 19, 2012
It's the month of love and everyone is eager to hear bittersweet romance tales.
Well, I'm here to give you something a bit different! That's just the way I do
things. The story I'm about to share with you is totally true and totally rats me out as
a super-self-absorbed maniac. A few years back, my husband decided to wait until
Valentine's Day to get me a Valentine of any kind. Now, I'm not the kind of
woman to ask for much. Seriously, he could have scratched out a "Roses are Red"
poem and I'd have fallen for him all over again, but no...Not my man. He wants to please me. On this very special day, he decided to let the kids pick my gift. Okay, I
know....ah, how sweet. But, really, I'm with my kids all the time. Christmas is
now "From the kids." Birthdays are "From the kids." I wanted just one day for it
to be "From my hubs." After ten + years, I hoped that I still deserved at least
one day of non-kid romance. So, here they come. It's late (because he forgot) and they're carrying
McDonald's bags. I cooked. You see my husband would know this if he'd moved on
into this century and bought a cell, but no—he's a little stubborn. They
have their arms laden with bags from Wal-Mart and proceed to pull my kid-V-Day
gifts from the bags. Oh, the presents were nice. I think it was a frame, a bottle of my favorite body
wash, a box of chocolates...you get the picture. All I could see were the unwrapped presents dangling from my kids sweaty
palms....nothing from my honey. Now, I did say that I was totally self-absorbed,
right? I know. Some of you want to reach through and strangle me, right? Okay, well after a few private tears, I put on a happy smile and spent the rest
of the evening surrounded by TV and children, with hubs in his recliner and me
on the couch. Fun times. It wasn't until the next year when my hubs took a job overseas that I'd think
back to that moment and wonder why I'd been such an A+ A&&. He worked a
16 hour day on V-Day and we managed a static-filled three minute phone call
before he passed out. I cried myself to sleep that night. You never really know how truly awesome even the "seem-to-be bad" moments are
until they are gone. So, if your guy has an #EpicFail moment this V-Day, cut him
some slack. They can't all be perfect all the time. Instead, remember a really
nice one and take a moment to reminisce with him. Sometimes we just all get
caught up in the living and the commercial nature of the holiday. Me, even on that bad holiday, I'd rather he'd have just come home, had dinner
with me, and spent some quality time...but obviously what he thought was
important to me was something completely different. We talk more now about our
feelings, our wants, and dreams. We never did before he went away. Since he's been home, we've not celebrated one V-Day. It's just not worth the
upset. I buy him a beer. He buys me a coffee. And we talk. I finally have my
quality time and all it took was giving up a year of our life together. Somehow,
even though every one of those 365 days hurt like crazy, I feel that they were
worth it. I'll never look at my totally-self-sacrificing husband the same again,
and I'll forever try to make up for every mean thought I've ever had about him. Get in the true spirit of the holiday and let that poor guy off the hook. I've shared my #EpicFail V-day with you. Now it's your turn. What was your worst
Valentine's ever? Does it seem so bad now? I'd love to know. Share your #EpicFail in comments and you may win a copy of THE LAST BEGINNING
Comments
23 comments posted.
Re: Rachel Firasek | #EpicFail, My Valentine
My worst was when my dear, thoughtful man
decided oops and ran to cvs got a card, hair
products, soap, condoms, and wine. Let me back
that up with, I don't drink and I have a
hysterectomy..I was horrified, filled with
suspicion. The moment things were handed to
me one at a time out of the bag I was beyond a
boiling point and mortified. The look of disdain
was apparently on my face as he slowly collected
the items, afterall it wasn't as fast as I would like,
and promptly returned the presents. Uggh, what
a memory.
(Carla Carlson 9:41am February 19, 2012)
I am sorry to both of you having a bad V Day....I would too ve upset...I can't say that I have had a bad one..but I choose that day to be our anniversary so that he wouldn't forget..at least he better not!!
(Dawn Staniszeski 10:18am February 19, 2012)
Carla, you can tell from what he bought, he was in a panic. :) Gah, that's funny. Probably not so much then. Thank you so much for sharing.
Dawn, you are a smart cookie. :) And, yes, you can give him grief if he does forget. lol.
(Rachel Firasek 10:21am February 19, 2012)
My hubby usually is ok on valentine's day although he is the candy eater so I get him the chocolates. :) I think the only times I had bad Valentine's Days it was because he was out of town and I was home without him. For years if it fell during the week we would not be together. Like you I realized that appreciating my time with him when he is home is way more important than if we give way to much money to a store for a couple of pieces of paper and some sugar.
(Patti Paonessa 11:58am February 19, 2012)
This year, I did get a nice card from my hubby, but that was it. He was asleep on the couch by 7:15. I don't worry about it though. I think Valentine's Day is way too commercialized and over-hyped. There's too much pressure on guys to make it something special. I'm lucky that my guy shows me he loves me in lots of little ways everyday.
(Catherine Lee 1:03pm February 19, 2012)
Well, I'm single so no big heartbreaking valentines story. And no exceedingly high expecatations. But my nehpews call and wished me a happy valentines day. So that was perfect.
(Pam Howell 1:11pm February 19, 2012)
I'm rendered speechless with the first comment. Why would your man get condoms when you've had the plumbing removed. Wow!
(Molly Wilsbacher 2:08pm February 19, 2012)
It is just another day in my home, no epic fail just not celebrated or remembered.
(Darci Paice 2:13pm February 19, 2012)
Patti, I love that he loves the sweets. :)
Catherine, I think we were both in bed by nine, lol. Not much romance going on.
Pam, you have super sweet nephews.
Molly, I was thinking the same thing, lol.
Darci, yours was probably the nicest then. :)
(Rachel Firasek 2:52pm February 19, 2012)
I have 2 say since my husband and I have been together I haven't had a
bad valentine day for which I am thankful
(Tabitha Monroe 4:18pm February 19, 2012)
My worst Valentine's Day ever was when my (now ex) husband removed his wedding band, told me he lost it (ha! ha! when he never took it off) and I found it in the ashtray of his car, where he often kept loose change, because he's a non-smoker. I decided to keep it and not disclose that I had it. He never missed it! Why? He had a girlfriend and was going to church with her! She wouldn't want the congregation to think she was with a married man! Who was she fooling (only her mother, from what I was told). So much for the romance...we got divorced a year later (after separating). They got married. It still feels bad or ugly to me, because we had such a wonderful marriage until she started working with him and hitting on him because her marriage failed (crying on his shoulder at work, so she could get hugs and sympathy from my man of 27 yrs.).
(Linda Luinstra 4:31pm February 19, 2012)
I guess when I was single? That was always a tough day...
(May Pau 6:25pm February 19, 2012)
I would have to say it would be when my Husband got off work and spent time with the guys, then came home. At the time, it got me a little upset, but now I understand that he was just blowing off some steam from his job. When he lost it after 7 years, it was a curse as well as a Godsend. Now we are closer than ever, and living in a quieter and calmer area that suits us better.
(Peggy Roberson 7:17pm February 19, 2012)
Worst Valentine Day is bumping into my ex unexpectedly and I was still single at the time while he has moved on.
(Kai Wong 8:26pm February 19, 2012)
My worst was getting car wash coupons. He gave them to twice.
(Debra Guyette 8:46pm February 19, 2012)
i am single so i worked!!
(Jennifer Beck 8:50pm February 19, 2012)
My worst was when my husband was stationed in Korea for a year. Valentine day was not the same. Thanks for giving me a chance to win your book.
(Linda Hall 10:20pm February 19, 2012)
This is my first Valentine since I got divorced. It was pretty sucky !
(Amy Milne 10:49pm February 19, 2012)
I had school, received all my chocolates and cards from my friends....THEN I HAD A SORE THROAT!! So I couldn't eat all those Toblerone Bars...Haha. It's not really epic, just that I'm a HUGE chocolate fan, so it was a big thing for me. Those sinful bars within reach but I couldn't even smell it. Sigh.. Haha. X)
(Chia Yet Peng 6:39am February 20, 2012)
Single... no dinner or gifts or kisses
(Colleen Conklin 1:06pm February 20, 2012)
No epic fail, it's been hit or miss. This year, he drove me to work and we went out afterwards. Nice!
(Lisa Elwood 4:21pm February 20, 2012)
No epic fail, just things are changing. I lost my husband a few years ago but this year made me think. My son was busy with his family (which he should be) and my daughter was out with her boy friend (that's great) and I'm not dating anyone so I was at home reading. The day came and went and made me think ' new beginning, time for me to get out there and find something I like?' Everyone enjoyed themselves so that's was good and my book was great. Hope yours was good. Thanks
(Margie Gagarin 7:32pm February 20, 2012)
Valentine's is not a big deal for us. I want love & adoration all year thank you & vice versa.
(Mary Preston 9:30pm February 21, 2012)
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