Savanna Fox | Why BDSM?

February 22, 2014

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28 comments posted.

Re: Savanna Fox | Why BDSM?

bdsm can be fun with the right toos and the right partner. mighty dangerous, however, with a casual pick-up. i like your new title, dirty is almost always fun. even little kids like to roll in the mud.
(Sue Hieber 5:57pm February 22, 2014)

Thanks, Sue. And yes, I agree that the partner sure has to be the right one. Casual pick-ups are risky anyhow - you have to put a lot of trust in your own ability to judge character during a first meeting - and even more so when BDSM elements are involved.
(Susan Lyons 6:23pm February 22, 2014)

It's female porn, as my fiancee calls it.
Though I see as an opportunity where we
can expand our imagination, we can use the
words, the way you describe a situation,
we can use it and see it in our minds, but
when it comes to reality there is so much
you can do, your shy at first BDSM becomes
a Role play sanio where in your mind you
get to be the characters, you get to act
out the characters feelings and thoughts,
of course having a partner who is both
willing and compatable helps, in the end
you gain experience and in the end you
feel more content. Plus BDSM is fun lol,
the way any author describes a sexual will
make anyone want to try it, one, twice,
three times over and over again, it spices
up not just your sex life but your
relationship with the other person.
(Taylor Fox 6:45pm February 22, 2014)

After sexual it was supposed to say "act"
(Taylor Fox 6:49pm February 22, 2014)

I haven't read 50 Shades, but have read other books in this category. You're a new-to-me author, Susan, and this book/series sounds like a fun and interesting concept. I'm going to check out the other books in this series on your website.
(Marcy Shuler 10:06pm February 22, 2014)

Thanks, Marcelyn. And Taylor, I'm not sure what your fiancée means by female porn, but I think of porn as something designed purely/mainly to arouse sexually. If the BDSM is in an erotic romance, then likely there will also be arousal of emotions (following the developing romance as it faces obstacles and deepens and strengthens) and probably also some interesting things to think about (e.g., in my "Bound to Be Dirty," the club discusses issues of power balance, equality, respect, trust, communication, intimacy, etc.).
(Susan Lyons 10:59pm February 22, 2014)

The Dirty Girls Book Club sounds like a very exciting series. I think it is great that your club discusses important issues of equality, respect, trust, and communication. Ever since Fifty Shades of Grey, women have become curious about BDSM and your series provides an interesting introduction to the subject.
(Bonnie H 11:25pm February 22, 2014)

It is a forbidden fantasy. We all have our guilty pleasures
and BDSM romance let's us know we're not the only ones (even
if our guilty pleasures might not be like those).
(Karin Anderson 11:28pm February 22, 2014)

Thanks, Bonnie. That's exactly what I was thinking when I came up with the concept.
Karin, that's an excellent point. Hurray for fantasies!
(Susan Lyons 11:42pm February 22, 2014)

i havent read 50 shades but i have a mother in law that did
it sounds really good though
(Denise Smith 12:07pm February 23, 2014)

I found 50 shades to be funny in terms of some of the writing and the scenarios. But it was a bit spicier than what I had read before. But there is nothing wrong with reading something outside of a person's comfort zone.
(Pam Howell 7:55am February 23, 2014)

I think reading books like 50 shades of grey helps relationships that have a
simple sex life. It makes you really think about your relationship. Even if the
woman just thinks about some of that stuff you know she is now thinking
and wondering what it would be like. It could possibly help with
communication in the relationship too.
(Shelley McNiff 9:28am February 23, 2014)

I haven't read 50 shades of Grey, believe it or not but hope to some day!!!
(Bonnie Capuano 9:41am February 23, 2014)

I have read some BDSM, but not Fifty Shades yet. Your series sounds really interesting.
(Colleen Conklin 11:59am February 23, 2014)

Denise, it would be fun if you read it too and compared notes with your mother-in-law.

Pam, I agree totally. We should definitely read outside our comfort levels from time to time.
(Susan Lyons 12:16pm February 23, 2014)

Shelley, at a recent writer-reader event, a guy asked me whether men should be reading erotic romance. I said absolutely. Women who read romance have happier sex lives and relationships - and so do men. Women learn that it's okay to realize their own needs and express them to their partner, and men learn the same as well as get a better idea what women may be looking for in the relationship. Not necessarily kinky sex (LOL), but better communication and more attention to their needs.
(Susan Lyons 12:18pm February 23, 2014)

I love reading BDSM books, I find them exciting and fun
reads. My hubby loves me reading them as it makes our bedroom
time more interesting! ;)
(Barrie MacLauchlin 12:20pm February 23, 2014)

I think that they are popular because people can secretly immerse themselves in
a world that they will probably never enter in real life...
(Rachel Kerrinski 4:23pm February 23, 2014)

Barrie, I'm glad your husband is benefitting from your reading.

Sheila, I guess that's the power of secret fantasies.
(Susan Lyons 4:30pm February 23, 2014)

I think I have an idea what the initials stand for but not sure. So probably haven't read this but am willing to give it a try.
(Denise Austin 4:42pm February 23, 2014)

It seems forbidden and naughty. I think people are looking for more excitement. Sounds like a good series!
(Kelly Powell 5:08pm February 23, 2014)

Denise, this is the definition in Wikipedia: "BDSM is a variety of erotic practices involving dominance and submission, role-playing, restraint, and other interpersonal dynamics." It can range from pretty light (as in my book "Bound to Be Dirty") - like blindfolding or tying up with a silk scarf - to pretty heavy. There should always be agreement as to what's okay and what isn't, and the submissive partner has a safe word which can always be used to stop what's going on. Which leads to the interesting question: is the ultimate power with the dominant partner, or with the submissive one who has the safe word?
(Susan Lyons 5:31pm February 23, 2014)

Thanks, Kelly. Yes, forbidden and naughty tend to be very alluring - at least when it comes to reading matter and fantasies! In real life, most of us are more cautious.
(Susan Lyons 5:32pm February 23, 2014)

I love the Fifty Shades of Grey series and I know I will love the Dirty Girls Book Club series. Thanks for the giveaway.
(Kathleen Beale 8:07pm February 23, 2014)

BDSM is popular because it is erotic sex that women are not supposed to learn about. It is about trust and giving up control to your partner. It is taboo sex that is forbidden but it does exist in the bedroom.
(Kai Wong 10:27pm February 23, 2014)

I think it's the thrill.
(Mary Preston 11:21pm February 23, 2014)

Kathleen, I do hope you enjoy the series.
Kai, I agree that trust is a key element. That's definitely something that Lily and Dax find out.
Mary, I'm sure it does give many readers a thrill.
(Susan Lyons 12:12pm February 24, 2014)

Well, BDSM seems to be hot now what with Fifty Shades of Grey
and other spinoffs. A little goes a long ways for me to
read.
(Alyson Widen 5:24pm February 25, 2014)

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