It's female porn, as my fiancee calls it. Though I see as an opportunity where we can expand our imagination, we can use the words, the way you describe a situation, we can use it and see it in our minds, but when it comes to reality there is so much you can do, your shy at first BDSM becomes a Role play sanio where in your mind you get to be the characters, you get to act out the characters feelings and thoughts, of course having a partner who is both willing and compatable helps, in the end you gain experience and in the end you feel more content. Plus BDSM is fun lol, the way any author describes a sexual will make anyone want to try it, one, twice, three times over and over again, it spices up not just your sex life but your relationship with the other person.