Sally Eggert | Trust vs. Passion
March 22, 2014
Okay. Here's a question for you. It's one women ask each other all the time,
but I'm not sure how often the answers we give can be taken at face value.
Maybe that's because it's a very personal question, and we reserve the right to
keep the whole truth to ourselves. (So don't answer unless you really want to.)
Or maybe it's because our thoughts and feelings on subjects as tricky as this
one are more complicated than we realize sometimes, even in the privacy of our
own minds. But here it is: what is most important to you in a relationship?
If you had to choose between two extremes, would you go with unflagging trust
and reliability, or—I'm gonna say it—really great, commitment-free sex? Josie, the main character of my novel IN THE DARK, starts the
story thinking that is roughly the question facing her. Of course there's a lot
more to each of the guys in question than a short phrase can capture—we're
all more complicated than that. But those are their most salient
characteristics in Josie's eyes, and in their interactions with her. So which
way does she lean? At first, she tries really hard not to choose. She doesn't
want to acknowledge that it could be more complicated than a black-and-white,
on-off kind of choice, so she tries to get what she needs from each of them in a
limited way without crossing the line into relationship territory. But that
doesn't work for long. Then she begins to realize that she's misjudged both
guys in some pretty major ways. That's when qualities that seemed like opposite
extremes begin to blur together. So maybe these are just my personal rose-colored glasses, but I think these
questions have a tendency to create a false dichotomy. That's certainly what's
messing with Josie's head at the beginning of IN THE DARK. Maybe the
great sex is the excuse one woman makes to get involved with a guy she cares
about even though she knows he has no steady boyfriend potential. Maybe the
ultra-dependable, solid-citizen thing is the excuse another woman makes to
commit to a guy she knows deep down she doesn't love. Maybe both things come
from trying to pick a partner from the readily available options, when the fact
is that Mr. Right is stuck in traffic and hasn't arrived yet. In the end, I
don't think we have to choose or settle. I think that when we find the right
person, both partners are capable of rising to the occasion, and being there for
each other in all the ways that really matter. If you need your man to be a
world-class polo player, and a world-famous Polo model, you may have to adjust
your expectations. But if you want a good guy with a good heart who will be
there for you when it counts and go the extra mile for you in bed, I kind of
think they're everywhere, and trust is a perfect place to start the search. If
you ask me, for women, trust may be the single most important ingredient in
ultra-hot sex, anyway. And there's nothing more handsome than a man who smiles
with his whole heart every time he looks at you. What do you think? What is the most important thing to you in a relationship?
Do we have to choose, or can we have it all with one guy? One commenter will win a copy of IN THE DARK (e-book)
A woman drawn into a dangerous game. A man who may not be what he seems.
Passion raises the stakes in Sally Eggert's electrifying novel of deception and
desire.Josie Nielsen's anonymous life as a bartender is a world away from her
classified job at a covert agency—and the terrifying night she was almost
killed for her country's secrets. That was the night Josie found out the hard
way that no one had her back, especially not the man she thought she loved. But
she's pulled back in when her new boyfriend becomes the target of a government
drug sting. A sexy, laid-back barfly, Johnny Boyer is the kind of guy Josie can count on . .
. to disappear before things get too complicated. But after she learns that
Johnny is part of a major international trafficking operation, Josie can't let
him out of her sight. And yet even as she plunges into the mortal danger that
surrounds Johnny, her attraction to him burns hotter than ever. She just isn't
sure whether she's falling for a ruthless, cold-blooded criminal or the only man
she's ever met worth trusting with her life.
Comments
31 comments posted.
Re: Sally Eggert | Trust vs. Passion
Trust is the most important thing in any relationship. (Pam Howell 11:40am March 22, 2014)
Hi, Pam :) Definitely--thanks for stopping by! (Sally Eggert 12:50pm March 22, 2014)
I would go with trust too... (Colleen Conklin 1:08pm March 22, 2014)
Hi, Colleen :) Thanks for your comment! (Sally Eggert 1:55pm March 22, 2014)
At this stage in my life commitment-free sex. (Denise Austin 4:48pm March 22, 2014)
Hi, Denise :) You make a good point--that we sometimes want different things at different times in our lives. Thanks for stopping by! (Sally Eggert 6:44pm March 22, 2014)
With the right guy (at the right time in your life) you can have it all. (Glenda Martillotti 7:43pm March 22, 2014)
Hi, Glenda :) I absolutely agree! Thanks for your comment! (Sally Eggert 8:09pm March 22, 2014)
Trust is very important, love the cover. (Pamela Fox 8:55pm March 22, 2014)
Trust is the most important. When you have trust, the rest follows :-) (Jan Capstick 9:36pm March 22, 2014)
I would have to go with unflagging trust and reliability, although in time, you could both with the right guy! (Rachel Kerrinski 10:13pm March 22, 2014)
A relationship cannot survive is there is love without trust. Trust has to be there in order for love to survive. (Kai Wong 11:07pm March 22, 2014)
Unflagging trust & reliability all the way. (Mary Preston 6:05am March 23, 2014)
Hi, Pamela--Thanks! I love the cover, too. :) (Sally Eggert 6:43am March 23, 2014)
Hi, Jan :) I agree! Trust is what makes all the good stuff possible. Thanks for your comment! (Sally Eggert 6:45am March 23, 2014)
Hi, Sheila :) So true--a good relationship can get even more exciting over the years. Thanks for stopping by! (Sally Eggert 6:48am March 23, 2014)
Hi, Kai :) Definitely--rewarding another person's trust is one of the ways we earn their love, even if we already had it. Thanks for your comment! (Sally Eggert 6:50am March 23, 2014)
Hi, Elaine :) You'll find it all! Or more importantly, you'll find the right guy with whom you can build it all. Thanks for stopping by! (Sally Eggert 6:53am March 23, 2014)
Hi, Mary :) A guy you can count on makes everything else better, doesn't he? Thanks for your comment! (Sally Eggert 6:56am March 23, 2014)
Trust is most important in any relationship. (Anna Speed 12:26pm March 23, 2014)
thanks for the contest and the book looks very interesting. Happy spring (Gloria Vigil 1:21pm March 23, 2014)
Hi, Anna :) Yes, trust is crucial to so many things. Thanks for stopping by! (Sally Eggert 1:42pm March 23, 2014)
Hi, Gloria :) Thanks! Happy spring to you, too! (Sally Eggert 1:43pm March 23, 2014)
Thanks, L :) (Sally Eggert 2:46pm March 23, 2014)
Trust is key, but nothing will be much fun without passion! (Janet Martin 5:07pm March 23, 2014)
Definitely Trust. Thanks for the giveaway. (Kathleen Beale 8:17pm March 23, 2014)
Trust (Leona Olson 9:33am March 24, 2014)
Hi, Janet :) Absolutely! Thanks for your comment! (Sally Eggert 6:48pm March 24, 2014)
Hi, Kathleen :) Thanks for stopping by! (Sally Eggert 6:49pm March 24, 2014)
Thanks, Leona :) (Sally Eggert 6:50pm March 24, 2014)
i don't think we have to chose. The Man will never make you chose, it will give you everything you need through compromises and vice versa no? (Sarah Hansrote 10:35pm March 31, 2014)
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