I've been blogging a lot about my re-entry into the dating world post-divorce.
Last week I joined a certain well-known online dating site in a conscious move
to meet men who want to be in a relationship. So far I had two dates with a Team
USA athlete who sent out inspirational quotes via text everyday and will remain
anonymous, which went south when it became obvious he was only out for one
thing. Not that I have any objections to that "one thing" but it was far too
explicit in his behavior, making it clear that it was all he was interested in.
A pity. We had quite a bit in common. Then there is the high-paid account
executive. The scientist. The Arnold Schwarzenegger look-alike. And the man who
works for the military. Juggling all these dates is no easy task, let me tell
you. Perhaps the site should have a queuing system: "your date shall be answered
in the order in which it was received," etc. It would make the on/off
communication a lot easier to take. Ah...Johnny hasn't emailed me in three days,
he must have gone on a date. Oh, look, he's back online. I guess the date didn't
go so well. Does that mean there was someone he liked more? Am I his sloppy
second?
Experience. That's what I'm gaining.
It's made me think about all the encounters I've had with men over the years. If
I knew then what I know now (I'm still clueless by the way), how differently
certain relationships could have gone... Perhaps I would have kept my mouth shut
with Brian, paid more attention to Raymond, or ran a mile in the other direction
from Daniel.
And being a writer, my next thought was what if someone had the technology to
invent a dating site called Re-Match.com. Through it, women could go back in
time and reverse the way their dates went with the men they wish it had gone
differently with. By the way, I'm copyrighting that idea here and now, so don't
get any ideas fellow authors!!! It's taken. Just like most of the men on the
real-life dating site, apparently. Either that, or they live fifty miles away.
Still, I'd rather date than not. If I wanted to sit at home alone I'd be a
writer.
Oh, wait. I am.
And this is all, um, research. :)
Lucy
About the Author
Lucianne writes romantic suspense for Entangled Publishing and Cobblestone
Press. Born and raised in Ireland, she currently lives in New Mexico with her
young daughter.
Formerly a stage and television actress, she now manages a non-profit and is NM
State Champion in her weight class for Olympic style weightlifting. Long story.
Recently she has taken up Crossfit, Jiu Jitsu and boxing.
You can find Lucianne at her
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4 comments posted.
Not having had good luck on the aforementioned dating sites (or ones similar to them), I can totally relate to a ite like Re-Match.com!! In fact, where do I sign up for it?!?!?
Later,
Lynn
(Lynn Rettig 12:04pm October 25, 2011)
I've had a few relatives find "Their Match" on match.com, but have not taken the plunge myself. Luck and circulating have a lot more to do with my patterns.
(Alyson Widen 2:29pm October 25, 2011)
I've never tried any of the dating sites myself, even though I've been tempted. A very young gal I worked with tried several and had very poor results, as you did. One charged her quite a monthly fee which wasn't cheap for the couple dates she had. My only advice would be, instead of actually having a first date right away, get to know the person over the phone by asking questions--hobbies and interests, occupation, why they're single or are they divorced with children, etc. Then if they seem to be someone that you feel you could actually have something in common with and enjoy their company, actually schedule a small meeting-type date at a small restaurant or coffee shop and make it clear that's all you want. I think men need to actually be told that you're looking for a relationship with a person, not a sex-buddy for "quickies." I wish you good luck a however you choose to go about it, it will be quite a learning experience and I'm sure by the time you find the right guy, you could write a book from your experiences! Don't be in a rush and be selective. Good Luck!
(Linda Luinstra 6:41pm October 25, 2011)