Abby Niles | FIGHTING LOVE or from Friends to Lovers
December 16, 2013
Let me introduce a character type—an independent, strong-willed woman, who
has her life together. She owns a successful business, bought a home and is
living a comfortable lifestyle thanks to all her hard work and dedication she
has put into her career. When it comes to her business, she is a logical, savvy
woman who knows what she wants and will bust major butt to obtain it. When it
comes to matters of the heart, well, logic seems to fly straight out the window.
In her head, she knows the type of man she needs: A settled down,
ready-to-commit, has-his-life-together guy. Her heart disagrees. Her heart
wants, has always wanted, her best friend: A the-party-never-stops,
why-commit-to-one-woman, YOLO guy. (YOLO=you only live once)
If you haven't figured out by now, I'm talking about my heroine from my upcoming
release, FIGHTING LOVE.
Julie has been in love with Tommy "Lightning" Sparks since she was ten. As much
as she loves Tommy as her best friend, she resents the hold he has on her heart,
but no matter how hard she tries to move past him, her heart refuses to let him go.
Love is such an odd thing. Most of the time, it has the infuriating ability to
trump any other emotion. It doesn't seem to matter how intelligent you are,
there is someone, sometimes more than one someone, who your heart goes stupid
for. If you're one of the lucky ones, the man who has made that dratted organ
pump harder has gone just as stupid over you as you have for him and you get to
be stupid together. If you're unlucky, you get placed on that damned friend
shelf and you are all alone with the stupid.
I've been on that shelf. Twice. The first was a friendship that morphed into a
year-long relationship when I was a teen. The second was a two year friendship
with a man who I eventually married...and divorced. Don't awwww me. We had a
great run. Two beautiful children and I won the ex-husband lottery. I'm not
being sarcastic. Total seriousness. We have a great "ex" relationship.
But I can speak from experience that the friend shelf sucks when you're
feeling for a guy. You can try to rationalize your way out of those feelings all
you want, but all it takes is laying eyes on him again and anything you've
convinced yourself of is proven a lie.
The real freakiness happens when you've come to terms with how the relationship
is. You want more, you hate that you want more, but you've accepted it,
and now you're trying to let go. And out of nowhere, he throws you a
curve-ball. Both of mine were different looks. Not the friendly
oh-you're-so-awesome gazes I was accustomed to. They were lingering, heated and
so not friendly.
I don't know how anyone else took the subtle changes from the "friend" they'd
been feeling on for years, but I worried about my sanity. I'm the queen
of overanalyzing. I questioned every damn thing that gaze could've or couldn't
have meant until I'd driven myself and my friends crazy. I still didn't
get a clear answer for a couple of weeks and their actions just got weirder.
Like emailing goodnight. (this was before text). All this did was make me stalk
my email. For one word. Goodnight. Really? You're already driving me insane with
your weird looks, and now you have me stalking my email too? So not cool.
Don't even get me started on the abnormally huge grin you keep giving me, yet
you still refuse to verbalize what's going on in your head. The thing was they
didn't have to say a word. One action would've made everything abundantly clear.
Men: Please save a woman her sanity. If you've placed a girl on the friend shelf
and want to take her off of it...don't do subtle. Just kiss her.
If any of you ladies want to chime in with your advice, have at it.
I'd also love to hear stories from those of you who were put on the friend shelf
of a guy you didn't want to be friends with but were later taken off. What did
he do to let you know he wanted more than just friendship? One person who
leaves a comment will win a copy of FIGHTING LOVE
Thanks so much for stopping by!
available December 31, 2013
Talk about kicking a fighter while he’s down.
Former Middleweight champion and confirmed bachelor Tommy "Lightning" Sparks has
lost it all: his belt, his career, and now his home. After the devastating fire,
he moves in with his drama-free best friend, Julie. One encounter changes
everything and Julie is no longer the girl he’s spent his life protecting but a
desirable woman he wants to take to his bed. Knowing his reputation, he’s
determined to protect Julie more than ever—from himself.
Veterinarian Julie Rogers has been in love with Tommy since she was ten, but
would love to get over the man. She’s quiet nights at home and a glass of wine.
He’s clubbing all night and shots of tequila. As friends they work great. As a
couple? No way in hell. She just can’t get her heart to agree. When she starts
spending time with another fighter, the man who’s always treated her like a
sister is suddenly not being very brotherly and enflames her body like never before.
Can two childhood friends make a relationship work, or will they lose everything
because they stopped FIGHTING LOVE
Abby Niles has always
loved to read. After having twins and becoming a stay-at-home mom, she started
doodling stories to keep her sanity. She didn't plan for writing to become an
obsession, but it did. Today, she juggles work, home life, and writing. It's not
always easy, but hey, who said life was easy? When Abby's not writing, you can
find her playing ‘Just Dance' with her kids or trying to catch up on her
never-ending to-be-read list.
21 comments posted.
Re: Abby Niles | FIGHTING LOVE or from Friends to Lovers
I have a friend that I've known since High School, and he called me up to let me know that he ran into a mutual friend of ours that I've carried a torch for all of these years. He started to ask how I was doing, and wanted my phone number. My friend gave him a phone number, but not the correct one, without getting my permission. Of course, I wanted to see him again!! To make a long story short, we ended up meeting at his place for coffee, and after seeing each other for a while, we got married, and have been together for over 30 years now!! He never knew about the torch I carried for him all of those years, and we both needed time to live our lives and make our share of mistakes, so to speak. It's been quite an experience, to say the least. Your book sounds good, and I can't wait to read it. Have a wonderful Christmas and New Years!!
(Peggy Roberson 8:00am December 16, 2013)
I think I could see both pros and cons to ending up with a friend. A pro, who
knows you better? A con, who knows you better? I never had that happen.
As friends, we were just too close and knew each other too well. I ended up
meeting a guy when I least expected to, never knew each other before, fell
hard quickly, married eleven months later and celebrated our thirty-eighth
anniversary this year. You just never know! I think your book would be
great and I would love to read it. Thank you for the opportunity.
(Melanie Backus 9:19am December 16, 2013)
this does sound really good i can see both pros and cons to i
think a friend knows everything about you its like after you
know someone you can guess how they will react to something
that is kind of nice in a way but not all the time
(Denise Smith 10:35am December 16, 2013)
Taking that chance is worth it when you find out you have a good relationship.
(Kv H 11:06am December 16, 2013)
There was one guy when I look back that I probably would have liked to have been more than friends with... it was just not in the cards...
(Colleen Conklin 12:21pm December 16, 2013)
Wow, Congrats on your new book: FIGHTING LOVE. I like the
book cover too! Yes, my Friend Jesus and I became friends
after I moved from Kansas to Austin, TX and I was working
for the State Govt. and we started dating after I was
divorced from an abusive 1st marriage for 8 years and I had
given up on finding a good man. We got together and now are
married 25 years and both of us are on our 2nd marriage for
a very long time. So, my advice is put God First and never
give up on Love. Great things happen with God. Your new book
sounds fantastic and I would love to win it and read it this
Christmas. Happy Holidays and Thank You very much. Cecilia
(Cecilia Dunbar Hernandez 12:28pm December 16, 2013)
I had won friend we went on a date and smooched some and it got extremely weird we just really weren't meant to be. Sometimes it's just better not to take it there
(Michelle Dodd 12:31pm December 16, 2013)
(Michelle Dodd 12:31pm December 16, 2013)
I have not had the pleasure to read your books yet, but this one certainly sounds like one to curl up by the fireplace, with a cup of spicy tea, quietly reading page after page all the while reminiscing about those "friends" you had a romantic thought about. Thank you so much.
(C Culp 12:41pm December 16, 2013)
Sometimes the ones you met years ago really are " Not" what you think. Love finding new authors like you.
(Barbara Wells 12:52pm December 16, 2013)
Ended up losing one of my best friends for telling him I had
feeling for him so didn't really work out well for me
(Leslie Davis 2:28pm December 16, 2013)
Never been in love, never tried dating a friend.
(Laura Gullickson 2:29pm December 16, 2013)
Hubby has been my best friend for 22 years now.
(Michelle Schafer 2:31pm December 16, 2013)
Love the book cover and WOW this book sounds awesome. Would love to win it so I can read it and review it. Tried the friend/date thing back in high school and not since, just didn't work. Congrats on this book!
(Carolyn Rhodes 9:33pm December 16, 2013)
I've never been on a friend shelf. Except my hubby is also my friend and that's a good thing.
(Marcy Shuler 11:20pm December 16, 2013)
My hubby was definitely my friend before we got involved---we worked together for years before seeing each other differently.
(Sue Farrell 12:21pm December 17, 2013)
Never been friends with someone first. Always been friends were friends, a
boyfriend was a boyfriend. My husband and I met and started dating
immediately. Here we are 25 yrs later
(Vicki Hancock 12:22pm December 17, 2013)
It's was the first kiss and that awkward moment the next day. We couldn't figure out how to normal around each other and that when he admits he would like to date me.
(Kai Wong 1:30am December 17, 2013)
Wow! So many different experiences! Thanks to everyone for stopping by! Now I will make a confession. I have never NOT been friends with a guy before dating him first. *gasp* I know, right?!?!
(Abby Niles 9:17am December 17, 2013)
Sounds like an interesting premiss. I've never dated someone who was a friend first.
(Carol Woodruff 6:56pm December 17, 2013)
I've never been on the friend shelf with a guy.
(Mary Preston 3:28am December 19, 2013)
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