Port Calypso Daily News - Advice for a Virgin

Port Calypso Daily News

As we reported last week in the Society pages, Dane Martin of the popular men's dating advice website virile.com and author of soon to be released self-help book, Coming On Strong, was seen in a compromising position with another local celebrity, Holly Winters. Ms. Winters, whose popular blog girlnextdoor.com gives relationship advice to women struggling to find commitment among the monogamy-shy Virile sycophants, seems like the last woman Martin would dally with as both bloggers' philosophies are in direct opposition with the other. Winters' own self-help book, as yet untitled, is to be released next year. Though neither would comment on the romantic nature of their relationship to PC Daily, stating they were "just friends", they agreed to a joint column this week answering reader questions from their unique perspectives. Each day, we'll be posting a new question with the He said/She said response. Port Calypso will certainly be watching these local experts as they navigate their "friendship." We can't help but wonder if the Girl Next Door has tamed the most Virile man alive...or is she just another notch on the bedpost?

Dear Mr. Virile and The Girl Next Door,

I'm a twenty-five year-old virgin. My friends are all starting families of their own now and I feel like I'm stuck. Nobody is pressuring me or anything, but I can't help but feel there's something wrong with me because I can't bring myself to trust a guy enough to have sex with. Any advice?

Not-a-Prude

She said: Please let me answer this one first. I just know he's going to say something awful. He said: Dear Not-a-Prude, You can trust me. She said: See? He said: I'm just trying to lighten up the situation because that is what the reader needs: to lighten up. The more pressure you put on yourself, the more nervous you are going to be and the less likely you will be to let your inhibitions go. Sex doesn't have to be serious. Pick the most attractive, confident single guy in the room (bar, party, dance floor, movie line, whatever) and bring him home. Once you get the first time out of your system, you can focus on whatever's been holding you back all this time. P.S. Be responsible. Mr. Virile always recommends using more than one kind of birth control and protection. She said: Well, I agree with MV about the protection...but that is all. There is nothing wrong with you and there is nothing wrong with abstinence. Virginity isn't a handicap. Waiting until you trust someone to be intimate is a smart and balanced approach to relationships. When you meet the right guy, the time will be right for you to share your body with him.