Iâ€™ve been fascinated by dreams for as long as I can remember, and as a
psychologist, I listen to dreams all day long! My patients love to recount
their dreams to me. Their dream material offers me a window into their innermost
feelings, their hopes and dreams, their fears and anxieties. In NIGHTMARES CAN BE MURDER, a
group of Savannah women form a dream club and meet every week to discuss their
dreams and solve a murder or two.
Here are some of the most common questions people have asked me about dreams.
â€śWhat does it mean if a dead relative appears to me in a dream?â€ť
When people dream of a loved one who has passed, they usually experience a sense
of joy and peace. It reassures them to know that their friends, relatives and
spouses really do exist on another plane. Invariably, the loved one appears to
be in perfect health, happy and relaxed with no sorrow or cares.
â€śWhy do I keep dreaming about a beautiful house? â€ś
The â€śHouse Dreamâ€ť is very common and well documented. The house is supposed to
represent all the untapped potential in your life. All the rooms are bright and
airy, and dreamers report that they seem to stretch on forever.
â€śSometimes when Iâ€™m dreaming, Iâ€™m suddenly aware that Iâ€™m dreaming. I can
choose to end the dream if I want to. Is this common?â€ť
This is called â€ślucid dreamingâ€ť and most people arenâ€™t capable of doing it, but
itâ€™s an interesting phenomenon. With practice, you can become more proficient at it.
â€śCan I control the content of my dreams? Can I make sure I see a certain
person in my dreams?â€ť
Sometimes you can. A lot of creative people make it a point to think about a
particular person or a pressing problem right before they go to sleep. This
makes it more likely that they will dream about this topic.
â€śI have vivid, violent nightmares. How can I make them stop?â€ť
Some medications increase the likelihood of â€śdisturbing dreams.â€ť Also, many
people experience nightmares at times of great stress in their lives.
â€śSometimes I find myself dreaming about being stranded in a strange city at
night. I have no car, no money and no way to get home.â€ť
This is a classic anxiety dream. The dreamer feels alone and vulnerable and this
usually occurs when things seem to be â€śspinning out of controlâ€ť in real life.
â€śDo people need to dream?â€ť
The brain needs to recharge itself and process the events of the day. Even if
you donâ€™t remember your dreams, your brain is trying to make sense of all the
information it has absorbed that day.
Mary Kennedy is a clinical psychologist and lives with her husband and eight
cats on the East Coast. Both husband and cats have resisted all her attempts to
psychoanalyze them, but she remains optimistic. You can visit her at her website or Cozy Chicks Blog where
she blogs every Saturday.
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