Drs. Patricia Love and Steven Stosny have studied this all-too-familiar dynamic between men and women and have reached a truly shocking conclusion. Even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship doesnβt bring you together, and it will eventually drive you apart.
The reason for this is that underneath most couplesβ fights, there is a biological difference at work. A womanβs vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a manβs subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This is why so many married couples fall into the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband, and why improving a marriage canβt happen through words.
How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It teaches couples how to get closer in ways that donβt require βtrying to turn a man into a woman.β Rich in stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages, this essential guide will help couples find love beyond words.
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