I'm with you, Joey! No whiny vampires. To me, if they've chosen to be one or born into it-- they won't whine about their losses or their good points. If they were forced, depending on how long ago it was- they should have come to terms with it. If not, they should've walked into the sun.
I'm a big believer in not killing your meal. How else can you keep vamps a myth if they're constantly killing people? It's one of those, "hmmm" moments that make you think.
As for the eroticism factor-- bring it on! I LOVE how you did Lyssa/Jacob's story in making it erotic and emotionally binding. For me, it made being a vampire not only sexy, but upped the erotic and emotional aspects with the balance you provided.