Hello, my name is Brigitte. I'm making an attempt to familiarize myself with the wonderful world of writing. I have Nora Roberts on my long list of books to read. I haven't been able to read due to catoring to my boys. They're in school now, and I have time to revisit my writing. Ava, it sounds to me like your brother-n-law is trying to blame someone else in the demise of his marriage. Look at it like this: your sister should be happier, and you have a story (if its okay with your sis)! ;-)