Traits I look for in a man? I think you overlooked a big one in my book and that's He's Got To Have Brains. He doesn't have to be a rocket scientist (I'm married to a former one of those and there are days...) but there's got to be something up there. There's nothing worse than having to pull a dumb man along behind you or having to dumb yourself down so he doesn't feel insecure. Like I said, you don't have to be a PhD that can unravel my genetic code but I would like to know you can work your toaster.
I'm so neurotic that I have a big, long, abstract process. I start with an idea, then I research, then I go through and write out all the backstory and work out the plot, then I plot down to the details, and then finally I write. It's a lot of work on the front end but it does cut down on the back end edits and I've noticed I can foreshadow in series better now than I did when I was pantsing like mad.