Alethea Spiridon | 6 Online Dating Do's and Don'ts
January 29, 2018
Online dating isn't going anywhere, and with one in three people meeting that
way (and that number is growing every year) not being online is a problem if you
want to mate/date. If you want to meet someone, get your butt online! Yes, it
has its challenges. Yes, it's time consuming. Yes, it's depressing at times when
you have to sort through the riff raff to get to the goods. BUT it is worth it
and is fun, and you can meet someone really great there, lurking in the pond.
Here's the quick and dirty of what to do and what not to do when online dating.
DO use recent photos! This cannot be stressed enough. Nobody needs a
five-year-old pic of you lingering online. Be straight up about who you are
today, right now. Five pounds heavier? So what. You are beautiful as you are, so
show them all that. Confidence is sexy. Fact.
DO write an upbeat profile that says a bit about who you are, what
you want, and that showcases your bright, vivacious personality. Not the place
to man bash, be negative, or talk down about your ex. Call your girlfriends for
DO be tactful and have a modicum of respect for your body. No nude
pics! Women apparently do this as much as men, but with boobs … and other parts.
It's tasteless and not cool. It turns a lot of men off, as much as it does
DON'T lie. Be truthful about your stats: height, weight, all that.
It's not like the other person won't eventually figure it out, and they may have
liked you regardless. So be honest. You're a catch; let them know what kind of
DON'T stand anyone up, ever. If you made plans for a first meet, but
are having second thoughts, you best cancel that meet-up. It's a douchebag move
to leave another person hanging and waiting somewhere for you.
DON'T reply to every message you get. It can be overwhelming at
times, the number of messages in your inbox. It's okay to just ignore the ones
you don't see a possible connection with.
Meet The Zombie Survival Guide for newly-single women, as author Alethea
Spiridon exposes the warty underside of the dating pond.
So many frogs. So few princes.
Every single (and soon-to-be-single) woman knows the Dating Horror Stories.
The guy who charms your panties off before he bolts. The funeral planner with a
foot fetish. The Early Ejaculator. Or that filmmaker looking for a soul
mate—provided you don't mind he lied about his height, his weight, his wife,
and... oh look, a micropenis. How nice.
The bad news is that these guys exist. The good news? There are ways to find
them, avoid them, and concentrate your energies on non-fuckwits. Who, as it
turns out, also exist. Hurrah!
From deciphering Man Speak to the sexy perks of 30-year- old men, Catfishing
101, navigating hookup culture, and the safety precautions every woman should
take, author Alethea Spiridon taps into her own hilarious—and occasionally
heart-crushing—experiences in the dating world. Funny, forthright, and hopeful,
Kissing Strangers is a survival-based how-to guide about looking for love online
... and how to separate the men from the frogs.
Alethea is a writer and editor (lots of romance books, so many) out of
Ontario, Canada. When her marriage fell apart she realized she had to get back
out there and figure out how to date again or accept a life of eating from the
Dinner For One menu option permanently. The book in your hands (or on your
screen) is the result of that research. If it saves one woman (you!) from the
landmines out there in the DatingVerse, then she’s done her job. For more bits
of dating advice and man mysteries solved, visit her website.