Bullying...it's a word that gets tossed out and mauled over by adults who
are trying to make sense of a
teen culture in which suicide is the third leading cause of death (National Bullying
Prevention Center). I see teens boldly speaking out against bullying,
cyber-bullying, indirect
bullying, physical bullying, and emotional bullying to enact social change, and
it's amazing, but I
also
see how teens use the word drama to distance themselves from bullying.
Bullying implies victimization or perpetuation of a negative action. If a teen
says, "I'm a bully" or
"I
was bullied because of my weight, race, or sexual orientation" there is an
automatic reaction towards
the
speaker...anger, pity, defensiveness, sympathy...whatever that emotion is there
is a bias and the
person
is labeled. If on the other hand a teen says, "High school is such drama" or
"I'm tired of all the
drama", there is a neutrality to the word that doesn't immediately slap a label
on a person. Drama
provides some measure of distance from the action while using the word bully
forces a teen to directly
confront the situation, which is extremely difficult to do.
The problem with using drama instead of bullying is that drama can
be nearly any situation in high
school; it doesn't have to involve bullying. Drama can also imply that the
problem isn't serious or the
teen's reaction to the problem is overblown. That's not always the case, and
when people don't take the
time to listen, without judgement or preconceived expectations, teens will
continue to use drama to
describe bullying.
That's why this week's list are books that take a closer look at the struggles
teens face as they try
to
understand who they are and where they fit into this world.
BACKLASH by Sarah Darer Littman
BACKLASH
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Social networking is an extension teen life.
It's not an escape,
withdrawal, or distraction for them. It is major part of how they build
relationships with their peers.
That's why cyberbullying is so damaging and must be stopped.
About:
Lara just got told off on Facebook.
She thought that Christian liked her, that he was finally going to ask her to
his school's homecoming
dance. It's been a long time since Lara's felt this bad, this depressed. She's
worked really hard since
starting high school to be happy and make new friends.
Bree used to be BBFs with overweight, depressed Lara in middle school, but
constantly listening to
Lara's
problems got to be too much. Bree's secretly glad that Christian's pointed out
Lara's flaws to the
world.
Lara's not nearly as great as everyone thinks.
After weeks of talking online, Lara thought she knew Christian, so what's with
this sudden change? And
where does he get off saying horrible things on her wall? Even worse - are they
true?
But no one realized just how far Christian's harsh comments would push Lara. Not
even Bree.
As online life collides with real life, the truth starts to come together and
the backlash is even more
devastating than than anyone could have imagined.
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LIFE UNAWARE by Cole Gibsen
LIFE UNAWARE
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What if you aren't the victim of bullying? What
if you're the one who
is
the bully? What happens when it all comes back on you?
About:
Regan Flay has been talking about you.
Regan Flay is on the cusp of achieving her control-freak mother's "plan" for
high school
success―cheerleading, student council, the Honor Society—until her life
gets turned horribly,
horribly
upside down. Every bitchy text. Every bitchy email. Every lie, manipulation, and
insult she's ever said
have been printed out and taped to all the lockers in school.
Now Regan has gone from popular princess to total pariah.
The only person who even speaks to her is her former best friend's hot but
socially miscreant brother,
Nolan Letner. Nolan thinks he knows what Regan's going through, but what nobody
knows is that Regan
isn't
really Little Miss Perfect. In fact, she's barely holding it together under her
mom's pressure. But the
consequences of Regan's fall from grace are only just beginning. Once the chain
reaction starts, no one
will remain untouched...
Especially Regan Flay.
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FLESH AND BONE by William Alton
FLESH AND BONE
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Early reviewers compare Bill to Holden
Caulfield, which is very high
praise.
About: A
literary novel for
young
adults that deals with a despairing teen uncertain about his sexual preferences
who turns to drugs,
alcohol, and unreliable friends for solace
Told in a series of images and fragments, FLESH AND BONE is a raw and real
portrayal of a teen
struggling
to find love in his life. When Bill’s father leaves and he and his mother move
far away to live with
her
parents, his whole world implodes. His grandparents are cold and distant, his
mom is distant both
physically and emotionally as she deals with her own struggles, and his dad is
just gone. Bill explores
his sexuality with multiple partners as he searches for love and compassion and
turns to drugs and
alcohol to dull the pain of loneliness. FLESH AND BONE is a powerful tale that
sheds light on the dark
places of the soul.
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