I seem to struggle with transitions. Not book transitions. They're easy. End a
chapter on a dramatic note, and then turn the page. Bam, we're in a new scene
and everything's exciting again! Easy-peasy. But in real life, I can't cut to
the exciting part. I have to stop working on one thing, figure out what I'm
doing next, drive to wherever I'm going and then do whatever I need to do. Oh
wait, did I forget to bring something important? Leave my work out shoes in the
car? Or my bedroom?
Did I lose my cell phone?
And where's my credit card?
It's not just the forgetting things that bothers me. If I'm honest, my mind has
always been somewhat scattered. But I don't seem to be shifting from one task to
another as fluidly as I once did. Maybe it's because the kids have grown up. (I
love empty nesting!). I remember having to countdown to departures. Leaving in
15 minutes, turn off the tv. Leaving in 10, get your shoes and coat. Leaving in
5, did you remember your lunch? What about the permission slip?
Apparently, I now need someone to play mom to me. Leaving in 15, do you have
purse? Stop with the email, it's time to go grocery shopping. No you can't watch
another hour of tv. If you do, you'll be wiped in the morning. But whatever it
is, I can't seem to leave. It's not just about never wanting to leave a
party-I've never wanted to do that. But now I won't leave a hated accounting
task because I can't dump it from my mind. I may be reading a great book, but
part of my brain will still be on that spreadsheet of itemized deductions. WTF?
Is this a normal part of aging? Or have I suddenly lost all the barriers in my
brain and one task bleeds into the next no matter how I try to switch gears?
Or...and let's be honest here...have I always had bleed in my tasks? But now my
kids have grown up. Maybe now the house is so quiet that I'm just noticing my
problem for the first time? I don't know. But I'll probably be still wondering a
half hour into my next task. Or at 2 am tomorrow morning. Help me out here. Is
And oh yeah, this blog was supposed to be about WHAT THE BRIDE WORE. It's a
good book about people who seem to be able to switch gears just fine. Clearly
it's not autobiographical!
This hot new series is set in a daring, high-energy Regency world
where deep longings, secret scandals, and the competition for social stature are
all set against the glittering weddings of the season.
Grant Benton, Earl of Crowle finally has the funds he always pretended to have
and what he wants now is a woman. That woman is Lady Irene Knopp, who spends her
days helping debutantes plan their weddings. A recent widow, Irene longs for
love again, but she's afraid to risk her heart, especially to the notorious
Although I never had kids, I, too, have gone through a lot of the same things you have, so you can rest easy knowing that what you have been going through is just normal, everyday getting older. I can actually take it a step further. When I get to the grocery store, which takes my Husband and I a half-hour to get to, I'll reach in my purse, and my shopping list isn't there. That's because I FORGOT to put it in my purse before I left!! If there's one distraction before I leave to go anywhere, and I can't do a mental rundown of things I'm supposed to do beforehand, I'm bound to forget something!! When I'm on the computer, there's always something that I forget to do, which is very important to me. In fact, it's one of the reasons why I got on line to begin with!! Some days my thoughts tend to bleed into the next, and I'm lucky if I get one thing done. Don't feel bad, Jade. Just join the club!! I'm going to sit back and enjoy your book in the meantime!! (Peggy Roberson 9:41am November 5, 2013)
OMG, I'm doomed... (Jade Lee 11:03am November 5, 2013)
Maybe with the kids/chaos out of your daily routine, your brain still needs something to stress about. I've always been a worrier, so I can relate. What the Bride Wore sounds wonderful! Thanks for the chance to win!!! (Linda Brennan 9:38am November 6, 2013)
I am sooo a worrier and this sounds great (Patricia Lambert 2:25pm November 6, 2013)
I'm in a nursing home, so I usually don't have to worry about shopping and etc. I do worry whether I have all my paperwork when I go to the Dr.'s. (Carol Woodruff 4:20pm November 6, 2013)
Seems like you have to learn focus. Today's net-hopping lifestyle means people have shorter attention spans, which is why they check mail all the time or send updates when they should be immersed in an experience. Try living net-free and phone-free for a week. (Clare O'Beara 9:47am November 7, 2013)
Counting down or up to the time when things have to happen is a way of managing time and creating some order to your life. I find that setting the clock 10 minutes early helps a bit plus trying to get to a spot 10 minutes early which means I'll be there right on time or 5 minutes late. There's an arc to aging with forgetting both a blessing and a curse. What matters the most is what you'll pay more attention to. Chunking the tasks down to smaller parts gives you a sense of order and accomplishment when you've done part of it. Your Regency story is appealing and I love learning about the social skills, place in society and the decor of the time. (Alyson Widen 1:06pm November 9, 2013)